Why Traditional Therapy & Coaching Do Not Help Most WomenDec 20, 2023
Research by HeartMath Institute and scientists who study the nervous system have found that our hearts have little brains that think, feel, and remember independently from the cranial brain. It is a new discovery from 1991, and since it takes decades for textbooks to catch up and change, we did not learn about it in school. The heart has 40,000 sensory cells called neurites. They are brain-like cells, but they are not in the cranial brain.
Your heart sends more messages to your brain than your brain sends to your heart.
So many coaches and personal development gurus tell us that all we need to do to change our lives is choose our thoughts, but there is finally proof that is untrue.
Everything we experience is registered then in both places (heart and brain), so when we have trauma (big or small) and we go to talk therapy or counseling, only the cranial network is focused on (not the neural memories of the heart). It also doesn't matter what happened to us, the level of stuck energy and emotions in the body are a result of how emotionally overwhelmed we felt during the event.
Since women are wired to feel more deeply than men, we often take in experiences more deeply, making them part of our identity, instead of just "something that happened a long time ago." It expresses itself in one of two ways:
- Shadow Feminine Energy - these women struggle with self-esteem and self-compassion, believing there is something wrong with them. They consider themselves Empaths or HSPs and spend a lot of time alone with over-active thoughts and analysis.
- Shadow Masculine Energy - these women find feeling too painful, so they make themselves VERY busy, and their to-do list very important. But since we cannot heal what we cannot feel, the pain is always running under the surface, appearing as deadlines, and stressful people, not their own stuck emotions.
To add another layer of difficulty, stuck emotions, and energy are subconscious for most of us because it’s so much easier for us to ignore our trauma than to look at it. We don't even know we are stuck, we just think "This is how I am."
“As long as you suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”
Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
New technology allows us to track whether or not our heart and brain are in "sync," which means the parasympathetic nervous system is turned on (rest/digest). It is called Heart Coherence, and according to scientist Gregg Braden, we are the only species that can choose to consciously harmonize our heart and brain in a specific moment, which opens doors to higher levels of consciousness, and new possibilities in the quantum world.
If you are not into manifestation, mystic experiences, and shiting your reality, it also is proven to relieve and manage our stress levels, improve our immune system, and increase our overall health.
Heart Coherence is the foundation of meaningful change, physical, mental, and emotional healing, and energetic clearing. Every successful person has figured out how to achieve it, whether or not they realize it.
The first few times you practice activating your heart toward coherence with your brain, it is more about noticing and clearing what is in the way of it. Your heart has innate intelligence, and if you get out of the way, and relax, it will naturally activate and open for you.
I’ve been guiding women to drop into and connect with their hearts, to uncover what is in their way for years in both private and group settings, and with my simple morning meditation. In just 8 minutes, your heart will be more open, and coherent than it has been in years, or decades (some women say they cannot remember ever feeling that open-hearted). By practicing this exercise each morning for 7 days, and somatically releasing whatever you find in the way, you will find your baseline level of heart coherence rising, to the point that it becomes your natural state again.
The most beautiful part is that you will feel more love, peace, joy, and freedom on a day-to-day basis, with absolutely nothing outside of you changing. And since we attract what we are (not what we want), you will eventually be resonating with higher and higher levels of abundance, love, and opportunity. That is EXPANSION and it's so much more pleasurable than manifesting. As a result of being in love with our lives as they are, conscious and subconscious desires flow in, as we are in a state of gratitude, which is the same frequency as receiving.
As your heart continues to “run the show” at higher and higher levels, your nervous system completely resets and your electromagnetic field widens, positively affecting others in your energetic sphere. Women find their coworkers and family members become more kind and loving as a result of their open-hearted states, starting a chain reaction of positive change in communities.
When just one woman learns to lead with her heart, over her head, it positively affects us all.
I’d love to gift you the exact Heart Activation I use myself and with my clients, so you can find what may be blocking your next level of personal or professional expansion, then share it with your loved ones and clients to help them.
About the Author
Jamie Dooley is an award-winning international Master Coach, Heart Activator, Spiritual Teacher, and Program Developer. She is the founder of Expansion Group for Women and the National Network of Healthcare Hygienists, and is the author of Self-Coaching Mastery: Win the War Within. Jamie has been a trusted private coach and guide for the past decade and now enjoys teaching the powerful modality she created with her sister, Lisa, the "ADOR'EM Model of Expansion Coaching," inside their Expansion Coach Academy & SisterCoach Collective. She reminds us all that if we are brave enough to be still and drop into our hearts, all of our answers are there, and as we heal ourselves, it is our duty to share what we learn with others.